Until a short time ago, I didn't know what ghosting was, then I saw an article on it. Was I surprised they had this weird name for a common behavior.
A while back, I had a friend who suddenly stopped phoning (she never did very often anyway) but now she didn't answer when I called, nor did she call me back when I left a message. I've known this person for over twenty years, so I was hurt and confused. I imagined, as a 'good Christian' she was feeling guilty and I didn't want to feed into it, so I didn't call back.
I tend to be self-focused and take the blame for a lot of what happens in my world. But is that a reason for someone to cut me out or 'ghost' me? Anyway, I looked it up and was surprised by what I found. I'll give you the short version and a link if you want to follow up on it.
In this article, admittedly, they are often speaking about intimate relationships. But these can be friends who ghost you. Take a look:
Some ghosters keep you on the hook or use "ghosting" to keep their options as open as possible. They'll drop all contact with you because they're interested in someone else, but save your number to return to the "backburner" relationship when their main relationship inevitably dies down.
If a ghoster comes back when they think you're moving on, feel free to give a second chance if they claim to have feelings for you, but don't give them endless chances. Someone who repeatedly deceives you isn't worth your time.
Some ghosters return because they think you'll put up with it. When you're a kind-hearted person who is always there, a ghoster might take advantage of your willingness to forgive and forget. A ghoster's bad behavior is not your fault! However, tolerating it repeatedly reinforces the message they can do it as much as they want.
To end the cycle, putting your foot down and cutting the ghoster off is best. Tell them firmly that you need some space.
I'm a talker and always have something to say. And so, it stands to reason, I should turn my thoughts into stories.