Orgasm 101

Do women - like in stories - actually orgasm all the time?
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Why do I ask the question? 
Well, I read a lot. I mean at least 3-4 fiction book a week. Yes, I’m a voracious reader and do not enjoy most television, so I read.
Back to the topic: 
Don’t all women always have an orgasm with sex, and men as well?
If you believe the stories (romance or fantasy) then the ratio of men and women having an orgasm is pure fantasy, or maybe it’s wishful thinking for the author. What about the women who read it, and then, wonder, what’s wrong with me?
Absolutely nothing, sweetheart!
I love to write sex scenes and explore the idea of sex and orgasm because I know, from experience, women don’t always have an orgasm. It’s disappointing.
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What’s the orgasm gap?
Here's the gap in frequency of orgasm during sex versus women. 
​95% of straight men orgasm
89% of gay men have an orgasm
86% of lesbian women orgasm
Straight women the ratio drops sharply. 
    Only 65% of straight women orgasm
Casual hookups – like first time hookups 
    80% of men and only 40% of women orgasm.
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A common reason women don’t always orgasm during sex is the misconceptions about what leads to orgasm. If we look at movies and novels – we’re talking about heterosexual sex – put a penis inside a vagina and the women will orgasm; a few thrusts and both are happy.
​So not true….
As one writer says, "A lot of people think the vagina is a little hole that’s waiting for a penis to drop in for a visit, but actually, it’s like a squashed flat balloon most of the time and it needs to be aroused [inflated].”
Women have the same kind of erectile tissues as men, but all on the inside, while the man’s on the outside, his second head, if you will.
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​Let’s make it real for the reader, writers.

• “After 15 to 20 minutes of foreplay, [yeah it takes time] all the woman’s pelvic floor muscles drop down and make room for a penis to enter. When women get real excited, the uterus starts moving out of the way, pulling the cervix back too. For a lot of women, if a man's penis slams or pounds hard (as some authors prefer) into your cervix, it can be unpleasant.
• And I heard a man one day describe how he was setting up his bedroom, so the bed wasn’t against the wall as he slammed into the female!
  • No wonder she never came or never came around again. 
  • Of course, she might have faked it the first time too.
• It’s important a man allow time for the female partner to become aroused. One of the advantages of really warming up is so parts of the vagina inside reach the orgasmic plateau. It’s like 'these lovely little spots’ in there feel great when you push against them. But You need blood and mucus flowing to make it work. You can’t just shove in a penis and think happy days.
• Most importantly, if you're getting close, and you want to orgasm, whatever you’re doing, keep doing it. If you stop and change, the clitoris moves back and you could miss the exciting and fulfilling event.

Okay, then, after reading all this information, I’ve started updating my writing to accommodate reality because we do women and men a disservice writing about sex so as to give them expectations that lead only to disappointment.
But that’s just my opinion.
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Author Page: https://www.amazon.com/author/brandymarks